How can we easily recognize a manipulative person? Here are some common behaviors.
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This article was translated using AI technologies from our Spanish edition. Errors can occur as a result of this process.
Manipulative people are everywhere. They are present in our circle of friends, our families, our jobs; in our closest circles and also in the distant ones. The reality is that often we can't identify them because their behavior is confusing: sometimes they show up for who they are, but sometimes they are kind and understanding.
A manipulative person is harmful to you and your company. Instead of ensuring the success of the project and collective interests, he will pursue his own goals no matter what he has to do to achieve them.
It is true that we all behave manipulatively at some point in our lives, but it is also true that a manipulative person has made this behavior a habit, an integral part of their character.
How can we easily recognize a manipulative person? Here are some common behaviors:
-It changes behavior quickly. Has it happened to you that a person who has never turned around compliments you out of nowhere? Manipulators often resort to these actions to raise the other person's ego a bit and then pave the way to ask for something. If a person who is not close to you suddenly tries to become your best friend, take care.
– Recognize your weaknesses or insecurities. And once he finds it, he uses it against you … over and over again.
-It's compelling. Manipulative people are often convincing in their arguments. Such a person can convince you to forego your values, interests, or goals in order to serve their own interests.
-She's an expert on making you feel guilty. She is an expert at making you feel remorseful. Get some behavior from you to make you feel bad.
– Assume that you are thinking certain things even if you have never said them. Because "he knows you very well" and "knows what you think".
– Usually he justifies his behavior with sentences like "I'm not the only person who thinks that." This is a clever way to remove some level of responsibility and aid your reasoning.
-Create confrontations. Try to triangulate things by putting one person against another.
-I want you to feel sorry for her. Compassion is a very subtle form of manipulation. Manipulative people often put themselves in the shoes of victims and in this way use their own empathy against you. If she can make you feel bad for her, she knows you are being manipulated.
Our advice? Avoid these people as much as possible. If it is impossible now, at least take these actions so as not to fall into their game:
– Don't fall for provocations. Before you believe a word he says, ask the right questions and confirm the facts. Always check the information. Creates an environment of transparency so that manipulation is practically impossible.
-No reactions. Often times, the passive-aggressive actions of these people are intended to provoke an aggressive response in you. Don't respond: act calmly and think twice before responding.