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The darkish aspect of New Yr's resolutions

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Have you ever noticed that at the end of the day we make the stupidest decisions? For example, "swallow" the last cookie you gave yourself before bed when trying to lose weight or staying up all night watching YouTube videos when you want to get up early.

Researchers now know why we're doing this, and it's not your fault. It is the fault of what is called willpower.

The famous willpower is like a muscle, and every time you have a decision to make, you harness the power of that muscle.

The more decisions you make about what to eat or not to eat, what to wear or not to wear, use a bike instead of the car, the more tired your muscles get and the weaker it gets, and the less willpower you need to make decisions about things that really matter. .

This is vital as researchers say that tougher decisions around the clock limit our ability to accomplish the things that will actually change your life, such as: B. Lose weight, read more, learn a new habit, save, etc.

We all have something we want to accomplish in our lives – getting in better shape, building a successful business, making extra money, writing a bestseller, learning a language, getting a thesis or degree, and so on.

And for many of us, the path to these things begins with a specific and actionable goal (New Year's resolution). At least that's how you've been told to do it in your life, but year after year this method doesn't work and yet we repeat the same ritual every year.

It really comes down to the differences between purposes and systems (the process you go through every day). Let me explain the difference between goals and systems:

When you're a coach, the goal is to win a championship. Your system is what the team has to do every day. If you are a writer, your goal is to write a book. Your system is the agenda that you have to write every week. If you are a runner, your goal is to run a marathon. Your system is what you should be operating and how you should eat each day. If you are an entrepreneur, your goal is to have a business that sells 1 million pesos. Your system is the daily sales and marketing process.

The question now is, if you ignore your goal and focus on the system, will you still get the results you want?

For example, if you coached a soccer team and ignored the goal of winning the championship and just focused on what the team had to do and practice each day, would you have results? Yes.

For example, I'm a writer and business consultant. I've been writing articles twice a week for a year and a half.

At the end of the year I have articles to work on a book. I'm not saying that the goal is not important, but that many of us make the mistake of just seeing the goal without focusing on the system that makes us achieve the goal.

This year, the resolutions you have made (your goals) may not be the most important thing, but your focus should be on developing the systems that will allow you to achieve that goal. The most important thing is not the goal, but the system.

1. Goals or purposes decrease your happiness

When you make your New Year's resolutions, you are essentially saying everything you wanted to and wouldn't do. It's a frustrating feeling so we don't set goals because they're essentially the things we don't have and we realize that "I'm not good enough, but I will be if I achieve that purpose." " . "

The problem with this mindset is that you are teaching yourself to postpone happiness until the goal or purpose is achieved. “As soon as what I do is what I have … then I'll be happy. Once I have accomplished my purpose, I will be successful. ""

SOLUTION: Commit to the daily process, not the New Year's resolution or goal.

Choosing a destination puts a huge strain on your men. If my goal had been to write a book this year, starting the first few lines would have stressed me so much, and maybe I would have stopped in a few months or weeks.

We do this to ourselves all the time. We strain ourselves unnecessarily to lose weight, do successful business, finish college, write a thesis, or write a book. Instead, you can keep things simple and reduce stress by focusing on the daily process, what you need to do each day, instead of looking at the big goal that is going to change your life.

If you focus on everyday life, you will enjoy the present moment more and improve at the same time.

2. New Year's resolutions only work for a short time.

You may think your New Year's resolution will keep you motivated year round, but that's not true.

The important thing about learning a new habit is that it is better to learn the habit of running daily than just aiming to run a half marathon. Maybe you will get there, but if you just keep your focus, run this marathon once in your life and the remaining days that you never do it again, can I explain that?

This often happens, people set goals to lose weight, exercise more, learn English and when they reduce a few sizes, go to the gym for a month and learn a few sentences in English, they become unmotivated, why? This is something I call the "yo-yo effect" that focuses on a purpose that creates a cycle of guilt and brief happiness when we do a little only on the day we haven't done anything Achieve breakthrough and rarely achieve long-term performance.

"I need quick results, I have to lose weight, I have to learn English." Realize that if you don't do it, there will be regret, you will make minimal progress and become demotivated because the great purpose that would change your life is not being fulfilled. That's why you're unhappy.

SOLUTION: Eliminate the need to seek immediate results.

One day when I was working out at the gym I felt a little bit of pain in my shoulder, it wasn't very painful, maybe just a sign of tiredness but something to watch out for. For a minute I thought, "I have to do the last series, whatever it takes, it's my goal!"

Then I remembered that I plan to do this for the rest of my life and decided that it is best not to risk my shoulder and seriously injure it, which would have resulted in my not exercising for at least a couple of weeks .

In situations like the one I've described, a mentality based on the purposes and goals of the daily process would have told me, "Finish the series, it's the goal because if you don't you will feel guilty, a failure You will not achieve the goal that it will change your life by looking good. "

But with a mindset that focused on the day-to-day process, I had no problem sticking to another exercise. Daily process-based thinking isn't about reaching a certain number, it's about committing to it every day and not missing a single training session.

Another example: some people ask me how to learn the habit of reading. Many read a book every month if they have never read it before, or think if the novel is attractive enough they get addicted and can't stop reading it.

So if they can't, it's the fault of the author of the book who didn't write it to "tie us up". Not correct

The most important thing about this, as I said before, instead of focusing on the goal, focus on the daily process, read two pages daily and if one day for some reason you can't read both pages, read one or a paragraph. The most important thing is not the number, but that you read something every day, focus on it and have read a book in the long run, and most importantly, you have gotten into the habit of reading.

I know if I don't lose my daily workout, I will be able to carry more weight in the long run and my muscles will be more resistant. That is why the daily process is more valuable than the New Years resolution itself.

Goals and purposes focus you on immediate results, processes on long-term results, and in the end the process wins.

3. Goals or purposes suggest that you can control things

Every time we set a purpose, we try to do it and plan where and when we will achieve it. We try to predict how quickly we will progress, even if we have no idea what circumstances or situations we will face over the course of the New Year.

SOLUTION: Check and measure what you are doing all the time

4. Do not spend more than 15 minutes a week reviewing processes and results

For example, for my company, my daily process tells me to write articles, post something on social media, and check and calculate the conversion rate every week (the percentage of visitors to our blog who took certain actions like subscribing, retweeting etc.). And more than focusing on the number, I focus on seeing what things I do well and keep doing them. When something goes down in numbers, in my day-to-day process I only correct what brings the best results.

Check and measure what we do every day. For example, if you are improving your eating habits and there is no reasonable progress in two weeks, you may need to review what you are doing on a daily basis. You may be missing a meal, not getting enough sleep, etc.

A short-term review will help you stay on course instead of predicting what will happen in 3 or 6 months.

Forget about trying to predict the future, build your daily process and adjust it when unforeseen circumstances arise.

5. Fall in love with the daily process system

I am not saying that a New Years goal or solution is useless. I have found that resolutions are good for planning your life and that daily processes are good for making them come true.

This year should be the year of "Everyday Life", slow down a little and be consistent, methodical but slow progress is more important than achieving a purpose that motivates you for a few days, but you stop doing it in February.

Instead of making a New Year's resolution, ask yourself this year:

What do you have to do every day to create a process that will make this a reality? What things do you need to give him more time every day? What would your ideal day be? Get involved and focus on it. How would you like to have a day in your ideal life? Design what you want this day to be and just repeat it every day.

Goals can provide direction and even give you a quick boost, but in the end, a well-designed daily process always wins. A daily process is more important and dedication to the process makes all the difference.

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