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Although there is a lot of talk about leadership when it comes to leadership, there are still many more bosses than executives in all its dimensions.
A manager is one who has generally received his appointment from the top of a company or organization and who, when bad practices are used, relies his power on verticality, the giving of orders and directions, severity, and the duality of reward or punishment .
In this way, the leadership bond exerted is based on obeying and obeying, because if not, there are consequences. In fact, they rarely talk about "us" and "team" and focus a lot on the "me" and that their people are a "group".
On the other hand, those who are leaders strive to motivate, inspire, guide, lead, teach and develop the talent they live with in teams. They may have been appointed by the company, although those who definitively affirm their leadership are the people who are the central axis of their daily operations. The ultimate goal is to create new leaders: not to have a legion of followers as bosses like to like.
Fear of authority
One trigger for people who are afraid of those who are bosses has to do with fear of authority. We're talking about emotional levels that make it impossible for them to be comfortable and to work effectively, and if this continues over time.
Perhaps any figure that they represent or relate to power in their imagination will evoke a range of emotional manifestations, ranging from easy to difficult. For example, when a manager calls the person for a meeting, they get restless, have palpitations, sweat, fear, and I've even seen them cry, both women and men.
The fear may arise from their emotional instability or because the leader activates some internal triggers that create that internal fear. For example, haughty, arrogant, dismissive, and haughty personalities often create intimidation in certain types of people.
Another important aspect is not to confuse fear with respect, an essential value in human relationships. It is highly recommended that you treat yourself with respect. However, if this creates anxiety or fear, then you will not be able to create the employment relationship that you are looking for.
7 tips to overcome fear of the boss
Aside from each person's particular condition and experience, fear is contrary to an organization's goals simply because it is a constraint that severely limits the potential of the talent available.
People who act with fear limit their performance, they are clumsy, forgetful, they live in the fantasy of not making mistakes – and that is exactly what often makes them fail.
If they are also afraid of inappropriate sounds or require attention, it is necessary on both sides to observe the conditions and the existing climate for what is happening.
We must always remember that there is as much managerial responsibility as there is in any member of the company that leads to this type of behavior that causes fear.
Abusive behavior such as manipulation, verbal and physical abuse, submission and neglect must not take place in the work environment.
In addition to speaking to your boss about how you are feeling when possible, these 7 tips will also help you overcome your fear of the boss:
1. Don't allow abuse
As much as it is an authority figure and fear can invade you, never allow the line to be crossed. Saying "no" in a timely and appropriate manner is the best you can do.
2. Improve communication with your manager
Part of the problem is optimizing the way you work with the person in charge who certainly has their own methods. You can accomplish this by learning to be assertive and clear about your ideas and needs.
3. Make the most of the time you spend with him or her
Often people miss the opportunity to deepen the working relationship with superiors because they don't care, have prejudices, or just out of fear. When the person is distant and cold, there are still ways to approach. I recommend not doing this from a wrong and wrong perspective, but from your authenticity. For example, when faced with a problem that does arise, it will let you know that you did your job wrong and look for the best way to express your point of view rather than regret it.
4. Try to see things from their perspective
There are positions that involve responsibilities, commitment, and complexity that may not be understood at an employee level. It's not about justifying the bad actions of the responsible person, but about empathizing and understanding why the person is acting the way they do. This information is valuable in order to improve your relationship with him or her, at least on your part, and to influence you as little as possible.
5. Work together and do your part
We are at a time when committed and loyal people are needed who identify with the values of the workplace. One way to focus on your professional development beyond fear of your boss is to express your desire to grow, the will and motivation to overcome obstacles, and the emotional balance necessary to keep yourself from doing so wear. . The best way is to show it. This does not mean that you will thereby remove the anxiety you may experience in your relationship with management, although within working hours you will continue to focus on more defined contribution forms and your working hours will not be strained.
6. Listen more than you speak
This is a game that those in charge love. Since they tend to have uncertainties of various kinds, it is comfortable for them to have some people who will listen to them, especially when you can learn from them. The suggestion is that you focus on listening and decoding what the person is trying to say and that you also learn to read their nonverbal language, which they are expressing with gestures. Far from being a submissive behavior, it will make the person lower their decibels and you can gradually overcome the fear you were feeling and even create a suitable space to tell them and do it together to solve.
7. Don't go through the boss and always move through the formal channels
When there are situations like fear, some people think that "bypassing" their manager is the way to resolve it. The truth is that this will make the situation worse. I suggest that you always try to solve the problems at the same level that they were generated and with innovative alternatives.
Prepare to discuss sensitive issues with your agenda, do not be hostile to the other person's hostility, and treat everyone with respect at all times. even with those whose behavior leaves something to be desired.
This makes it clear that the fear is yours and that you need to take care of it. Appropriate psychotherapy or professional coaching interviews can help.
What you need to choose is the best strategy to overcome them and, as much as possible, turn them into an experience that is as comfortable as possible for you. And in the face of extremely difficult and toxic cases, there is always the alternative of pursuing new career paths.