Avoid these overused and uninspiring words and phrases.
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Every business area has jargon. It is widely known that you should not use these terms much outside of this range, otherwise people will not know what you are talking about. Beyond jargon, there are other things that people shouldn't say if they want to tap their potential. The things we say can have a profound impact not only on those to whom we say them, but also on ourselves.
The meeting that made my blood boil
Do you remember the moment you knew you were destined to be a successful entrepreneur? For me it was when I was in what I call the cliché meeting.
I went to a meeting, took my cup of coffee and looked around at my teammates. The boss came in and said, "All right, we have to start thinking outside the box."
I thought, "The 80s called and they want their mantra back."
Yes, I knew I could communicate with more meaning than he did, so my thoughts vanished as I counted his buzzwords and clichés. At the end of the meeting, he said, "Thank you in advance and good luck!"
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I felt my stomach turn. I managed to hold onto it. But I blurted out: "Happiness has nothing to do with it."
I couldn't hide my feeling of insult. My team members thanked me all day for coming to defend their skills. I have never indicated that my comments are due to a lack of control. Empty sentences make me angry; I expect something better from managers.
Words make a difference
Smart people avoid saying the wrong thing to their teams. Very successful people know that all they have to do is open their minds and consider the purpose behind their words. A little thought before we speak will make our words more meaningful. It also makes us sound smarter.
Relatives: Your words have an impact, so think before you speak
Avoid joining a conversation unless you understand what other people are trying to prevent from interacting. I'm looking for what I call the “unified vision” of everyone in the room. Once you understand the purpose that holds all the participants in the conversation together, you can focus on the content of the conversation. Armed with understanding, you are less likely to say anything harmful because you are in a focused place. You will be present.
Words and sentences to avoid
The following sentences affect our ability to clarify a point, our desire to continue productive dialogue, or they can simply offend or offend the listener.
"I'm just saying." This sentence is the ultimate excuse. No matter how long you have spoken, no matter what you have said, you have simply reduced everything you have offered in "just words".
"I have a right to my opinion." Yes, you are. There is no doubt about that. You have the right to have your own opinion, but discussions or discussions about facts or events. When you express your opinion, you give up the ability to take your position because you have put everyone on a defensive and say that you will not move and the conversation will not move.
"I had no choice." We always have a choice. Even if someone says I have no choice; You have made a choice. If you are involved in a meeting or discussion about this election, you should be willing to defend the election rather than asking people to accept the summary conclusion as final.
"It's just my two cents." Without knowing you, I assure you that your thoughts are worth more than two cents. Never minimize what you have to say by imposing the low price of the cliché on your words.
"I might be less interested." This is one of those sentences that end a conversation. You don't like it if someone doesn't care about your thoughts, so don't throw that glove down. Also, using the double negative really means you're taking care of it, but that's not heard because you didn't mean it.
"I personally." Has always been a favorite of mine because you speak it the way you speak personally. We use this phrase to try to mask our feelings by saying that this is what I am made of. It's your personal feeling, so just say "I" and live with what you say.
"How …" I can't imagine that this will ever leave our dictionary. It is used by people who formulate thoughts and are looking for something to say. I think it's better than "um", but it sends a message that you don't know what to say next. Think about what you will say before your words are spoken. Silent thinking does no harm.
"I hope …" Along with "I'll try" is one of those phrases that put a bad tone. You subconsciously tell people that you are giving up control. It's a much stronger position to say, "I will." Don't give yourself out unconsciously and don't doubt your ability to do what you say you would do.
"It's not my fault." The moment this comes out, you're looking for someone to blame for. Take responsibility for the situation and explain the circumstances so fully that everyone else can see that it is not your fault. And if you are to blame, you own it and present a solution.
"My mistake." Okay, I just said take over. While this sentence implies that it is your fault. But it's a slang term that looks blatant and worthy of a small street. It doesn't come across as property because the frequency of expression in society makes acceptance of guilt appear sarcastic and trivial.
"I can not." If you say this with the meaning that you are unable to do something, it may be time for you to learn. But the reality is that when most people say "I can't", they really say "I won't". At least everyone will hear that. Only very bad news is sent. Remove them and don't say, "I can't remove them."
"That's not fair." Whether you like it or not, as soon as this sentence leaves your mouth, everyone in the room will imagine a three-year-old stamping and screaming on the floor. Nobody has ever said that life is fair. It is much better to focus on the circumstances that you consider unfair and to state that you have a larger workload, that you are forced to do something beyond your capabilities, or whatever it is that makes you feel injustice.
"That's how we do it here." Yes. This ends innovation and improvement. It tells everyone around you that you are not open to suggestions and new ideas. Nobody will strive to be you.
"Please advise." This sentence is a one-way street. It is bad if it is used by a manager and it is bad if it is used by a member of their team. When you hire someone to do something, state exactly what you want. If you receive instructions from your manager and answer “Please advise”, you will shift the responsibility up the hill again. These two words can be the passive-aggressive words in any work environment.
"With all due respect." This is the ugly cousin of "Not bad, but …". You could just say, "I don't respect you and I don't like you, but I'll tell you what I'm going to say. You don't buffer disrespect by saying your buffering disrespect.
"That makes no sense." This ends the conversation either because it says that you don't understand it or because the other person makes no sense. The negative connotation is that someone … I dare say stupid. Identify what makes no sense and include this in a question so that the discussion can continue.
"Let's not reinvent the wheel." Given the reality, the wheel has been reinvented thousands of times since it was first carved by a caveman. Any progress in our society is the result of reinventing something somewhere. Sometimes this reinvention is bad, sometimes the reinvention is phenomenal. This sentence judges every idea as bad. This requirement will destroy innovation in its infancy.
"It is what it is." I have to be honest. I don't even know what that means. It's a trivial trivial cliché that has survived far too long in society. It pretty much means … no, who I'm kidding, it means nothing. It just makes people out.
"Let's take that offline." Yes, this is a cool line because it was created in the internet age. It sounds like you're really hip. It also sends a message to everyone else in the room that something is going to happen, that they will not be part of it. If you want to talk to someone about something that not everyone else is involved in, make this clear.
"I hear you." I was asked once: "What is the opposite of speaking?" I said, "Listen." My inquisitor warned that the opposite of speech was waiting to be spoken. Listening was a completely separate function. You could hear people without listening to them. It means that you are ready to speak. You heard her "sound" and now it's your turn. This is an unconscious conversation stopper.
"To disturb." If you call up the expression "disturb" it sounds cool, hip and rebellious at the same time. While popular in modern culture, it sounds like change for the sake of change without regard to the outcome. To disturb something means to interrupt by disturbance or to change or destroy the structure of something drastically. Pursuing a new vision is positive. But apparently, "bother with a positive cause" just doesn't sound cool.
"New Normal." This term was previously used effectively to describe a newly restructured company or a person's life after losing a loved one. The term was originally intended to describe a permanent new existence. Recently, in the past few years, during the 2020 pandemic, it has been spread out prematurely in various ways. The future is not set in stone. Accepting a norm too soon is a concession.
"But …" if you have discussed something and suddenly utter a "but", a message is sent that you are about to reach a point in your discussion that negates everything you said before. People will focus on that word, forget everything that came before, and the negative that follows the word will stay with your audience.
"To be honest." Does this mean that everything you said before this statement was a lie? If everything you said is true, there is no need to honestly insert the sentence into a discussion. Whether you intend it or not, it makes people wonder if you've been honest all along.
The old saying applies: "Say what you mean and what you say." If you spice up your conversation with key words, clichés and copouts, the dialogue will not be furthered or a clear understanding will be created. Consider emptying the useless phases that overload a discussion. You maximize the impact of every word you speak and you will sound more successful.
Author, business coach, lawyer, mentalist and motivational speaker Joe Curcillo helps companies succeed by focusing on the idea of a unified vision. For more information, see The Mind Shark.